by Lucy Crivelli (@lucycrivelli)

At this point, it’s 5 months before the wedding. Crunch time. I think this is the part that should be easier because everything is coming together. But it’s actually a lot harder than we thought. This is the hard part that makes you realize why you’re marrying your significant other. The stress of the process, the planning, the decision making. It all shows you why you’re together, and how you’ve gotten this far.

A lot goes into planning a wedding. You have to try & throw an amazing wedding, stay within a budget, plan a honeymoon all while trying to turn off your ears to what everyone else has to say about YOUR wedding. I want to say this process has been easy for us, but that would be giving you guys a false idea of what wedding planning is really like. It’s fucking stressful but has its fun moments at the same time.

So for a fun little read and to relieve you of some stress; we’ve compiled 4 things to consider when planning a wedding.

1. Don’t spend over 10k

If you don’t have thousands to blow on your wedding, don’t worry about pleasing others with all that cash. Your wedding day can be simple but glamorous at the same time. It’s all in the details. Don’t go broke trying to have your dream wedding. Unless you got it like that or found a rich honey, save that shit for your honeymoon! You’ll thank us later. (Yelp, Etsy, Amazon, Moo, Canva, are just a few places to start getting creative)

2. Stress is normal

Don’t call off the wedding if stress is getting too hot to handle. Although it's very typical, it will also cause tension between the both of you. Take a second to think if what you’re stressing out about is worth stressing yourself out and your partner. Stress isn’t healthy so throw a little fit, refocus, and get back to planning.

3. Plan it together

Typically the bride plans most of the wedding, but it's important to remember you’re BOTH getting married so responsibilities should be shared. This takes a huge weight off of the bride's shoulders & it honestly keeps you both on the same page about what will be happening on your special day. Sharing every detail about the wedding & coming up with creative ways to make your day memorable makes it that much more fun and exciting. Find each other strengths and weaknesses to evaluate who will take care of what. You’re not going to agree on everything, but you’re different people with different thoughts, talk it out and get through it.

4. Enjoy every moment

Enjoy the good and the bad. Hopefully, you’re only planning on getting married once, so this should be something you’re fully invested in. You have to learn to love the ugly because not everything is going to go as planned. Every moment counts & it's those hard to get through moments that are going to make your day extra special. You’ll look back at the finished product while you’re sitting beachside sipping some chardonnay thinking to yourselves “it was worth it”!

And while I sit here skimming through all of the wedding emails, I can't help but be thankful for having the perfect person to go through all of this with.